#9 Babby daddies

This category is not as obvious as some of the others, but hey, let's give it a shot people . . .

Many Black women have a hard time finding a man.  In fact, this problem is so common that sometimes two or there of them will fight over the same man.  How common this type of fighting is I don't know.  I just know that it happens sometimes.  This fighting is very shameful though because many Black women could find another man who would treat them right if they just knew where to look.

That said, when Black woman do find a man, it also sometimes happens that they, in turn, do not know how to treat said good Black man with respect.  They often have to separate themselves with said man because of unreconcilable differences.  These spearations often happen because the Black man and woman got together for the wrong reasons or they went to fast in the relationship.  Oftentimes, the Black man did something or several things that upset the Black woman and she, in turn, just can't take it anymore.  Oftentimes, it also happens that the two don't know how to be in a relationship.

This separation beteween Black man and woman leads to the creation of a babby daddy.  A babby daddy is simply what the term applies.  Someone who is the father of someone's baby.  That's it.  It doesn't not mean that the two people in the relatinship get along.  In fact, it just might be that the babby daddy in questoin is very much an absentee father who doesn't even pay his child support for the baby.  Furthermore, some baby daddies don't even know they are a father of a child until someone tells them or a paternity test is conducted say, on the Maury Povich Show.

The existence of so many baby daddies in the United States even prompted someone to come up with a song called "That's Just My Baby Daddy" in which the chorus just repeats the title of the song over and over again.  The song pokes fun at the existence of baby daddies by implying that most baby daddies come from the ghetto or poor rural area.  However, this is not always the case.

Another type of babby daddy however, is the opposite of the absentee father.  This type of baby daddy is the type that makes a baby with a Black woman and after the baby is born the child is 12 ore 13 when the couple actually decides to get married.  Why the couple waits so long to get married is somewhat of a mystery.  It's a similar phenomenon to those people who date people for 10 or 14 years and then actually decide to get married.  They don't even know why they wait so long to get married.  Consequently, not all babby daddies are bad.  There are some who do actually care a lot. 

However, it is probably safe to say that most, if not many, baby daddies are like fly-by-night fathers.  This trend in baby daddihood leads to the creation of more and more baby daddies because that is what the children of the babby daddies see as examples of an acceptable form of a relationship.  In fact, some African-American children who grow up in poor, less educated households learn from their parents that relationships are, for the most part, not important.